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Andrew Burton's avatar

I am the parent of a daughter diagnosed at age 14 with the inattentive version of ADHD, who was very successfully prescribed stimulants and strategies to assist her in focusing. She became in fairly short order a highly successful high school and college student. These are by no means the only metric for happiness and success in life: at 14 before her diagnosis she was a sensitive, empathetic, loving and smart young woman. She became a sensitive, empathic, loving and smart young woman who had much greater ability to focus and to implement her own (self directed) study and work discipline. As far as I can tell, cutting off carefully prescribed and calibrated stimulants for her is a bit like taking away spectacles or contact lenses from someone with severe short sight.

At the time of her clinical diagnosis, I self diagnosed - as a then 50ish adult the list of behaviors and peculiarities of an inattentive ADHD person fitted me extremely well - although I had been very successful at school/university and quite successful at work. One thing I attributed this to was the ability to hyperfocus, which was extremely helpful to a young chess player, student and later knowledge worker. I had next to no tolerance for boring tasks, but could make unique inroads into very complex problems, often pulling together two or three seemingly unrelated strands (later, I’d think “wasn’t that obvious?” Well, it wasn’t.”)

Hyperfocus was, for me, my special sauce or superpower. I didn’t want to mess with it at all. Coping strategies, 100%, and explanations to a sympathetic but frequently exasperated spouse. But no medication, thanks.

I put my daughter in the group who had successful medical intervention for a very real but hard to spot condition. I put myself in a group who thought “ah, this actually helps a lot.” It’s possible I might have gained focus and retained the ability to hyperfocus - anyone who reads this and says “hey, I did this!”, it would be great to hear your story.

In my experience the Right have a very small set of models for healthy lives, while the Left are readier to embrace diversity in its many and varied forms. I don’t think one size fits all for autism, ADHD, or companion divergences from the norm. E pluribus, pluribum. (I never studied Latin)

Amyn Merchant's avatar

Thank you for writing this Roland. I, too, have a personal interest in this subject.

It will always be impossible to get the level of diagnosis exactly right; the question then becomes in which direction we, as a society, choose to err. My feeling is that we should regard people as individuals and, if anything, try too hard to help them. Whilst there may be people who are diagnosed against their will, or for whom a diagnosis affects them negatively, I feel that the numbers on the other side - of people who do not choose, or are unable to get diagnosed - will always be greater.

Like most people advocating for autistic people, I wish to see societal change, and I would prefer us to err on the side of showing too much empathy and understanding than not enough.

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